What Jersey Shore Can Teach Us About Human Nature & Love

When it comes to reality TV shows, Jersey Shore often gets labeled as trashy. However, I have a confession to make—I love it! There’s something undeniably entertaining about watching these characters live in a world of partying, hooking up, and bickering. Even as they’ve grown up, the traits that defined them in their wild youth still shine through in Jersey Shore Family Vacation. But beyond the guilty pleasure of indulging in drama, this show offers valuable insights into human nature and how we navigate relationships.

Jersey Shore is a prime example of how humans are far from rational beings, especially when emotions like love come into play. Take the case of Sammi and Ron, who initially claimed they weren’t interested in anything serious but soon found themselves dating. Sammi, in particular, was somewhat of a player in the beginning, enjoying the company of Mike and others. It becomes evident that just because she’s kissing or hanging out with someone doesn’t mean she’s committed to them. It’s only when a relationship is defined or has deepened that she makes her decision. This uncertainty creates tension and competition among the men, leading Mike to attempt sabotaging Ron by speaking negatively about him. But love works in mysterious ways, and despite Mike’s efforts, Sammi chooses Ron, leaving Mike with a hard-learned lesson—don’t count your chickens before they hatch.

One of the most significant examples of irrationality on the show is the infamous “Note” incident. In Miami, during a particularly rocky phase in Ron and Sammi’s relationship, Ron is caught fooling around with other women at clubs. His roommates, torn between loyalty and concern, decide to write an anonymous note confessing Ron’s infidelity to Sammi. Logically, you’d expect Sammi to be grateful for such information. Instead, she becomes obsessed with uncovering the note’s author, leading to endless fights and suspicions among the girls. To everyone’s surprise, Sammi forgives Ron and stays with him, even after the cheating revelation. It’s a puzzling situation that defies rationality.

Sammi was so focused on who wrote the note and the fact that the girls didn’t tell her that she underweighted the fact that Ron cheated on her. It would be a lot more logical for her to get over who wrote it and just punish Ron for his bad deeds. While she’s clearly hurt and does get mad at Ron for a bit, she somehow continues to stay with Ron and focus her negative emotions towards who wrote the note. The dialogue and fighting was often on why the girls didn’t tell her, even though they did through the note and just didn’t admit it was them. When you combine that with the fact that they are all quick to get into a fight or call each other names, tensions heat up quickly.

My theory is that there were other factors at play that twisted and turned Sammi into the way she was. One theme throughout the seasons was her jealousy of Jwoww. Even though Jwoww never expressed any romantic interest in Ron, she was still beautiful. Hence, with rumors of Ron cheating, Sammi let her jealousy twist her perspective of Jwoww into an enemy. In a later season, way after the Note fiasco, she asks Ron if he’s friends with Jwoww, which he admits he is, and then she punches Ron in the mouth for it. Jwoww and the other girls don’t back down from a fight, so when one instigates a fight, they’re all quick to get involved.

The reality of Jersey Shore mirrors a fundamental truth about human nature: we are emotional creatures. Logic often takes a backseat when emotions are involved. Jealousy, insecurity, and the desire to be desired can lead people to make irrational choices and react in unexpected ways. The show serves as a microcosm of the complexities of human relationships, demonstrating that we’re all susceptible to emotional turbulence and inconsistency.

Eleven years later, they did a “follow up” interview with the parties involved, which I link in the video below. Now that they’ve all had time to mature and process what happened, they mention they would’ve done things differently. Sammi reveals how and why she did what she did. She felt like she was an outcast at that point and lost all her friendships because it felt everyone would rather keep their friendship with Ron that admit they wrote the note. And that is why she decided to stay together with Ron; because she felt she had no one else. Many people also felt that they should’ve just spoke to Sam directly instead of writing a note. Sam also realizes now that the girls who wrote the note were really just looking out for, and the note was just not the best approach of doing it.

What’s important to realize here is that people behave irrationally in the moment. You can’t count on or wait for them to mature eleven years later. You have to deal with the consequences of their actions in the present. They may see clearly in the distant future. You have to deal with them as they are, as emotional irrational creatures.

In conclusion, Jersey Shore may be a guilty pleasure for many, but it offers more than just entertainment. Through its dramatic and often irrational moments, the show gives us a glimpse into the intricacies of human nature. It reveals that love, jealousy, and emotions can lead people to make surprising choices, defying logic and reason. As we watch these characters navigate their world, we can’t help but recognize aspects of our own human nature in their actions, reminding us that we’re all bound by our emotions and the complexities of our hearts.

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By Will Chou

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